Effective Consequences

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Consequences are the second part of your firm limit setting message.


Relatedness – Must be logically related to the behavior. Usually adults apply the same consequence for different misbehaviors.

Duration – Short term, should fit the way kids think. Shorter consequences give them more opportunity to collect data and demonstrate behavior. Just because a little is good a lot is not necessarily better.

Respect – Consequences must be delivered without attacking, insulting or humiliating the child.

Clean Slates – Once the consequence has been applied, resist the urge to keep reminding the child of the past offense. They now have more information and fresh opportunities to learn.

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This radio program includes some thoughts on limit setting. Do you agree with the presenters? 

Childhood Matters: Love with Limits: Building Blocks of Discipline - May 21, 2006

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